Thinky thoughts.
Nov. 27th, 2009 04:41 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
pensnestWe spent yesterday collecting Father in Law from Bexhill-on-Sea. He had an operation on Wednesday to correct a deformation of his foot, and we overrode his protests about how he'd be perfectly well able to look after himself and insisted he get a bit of pampering here. It shouldn't really have taken all day, but what with the hospital and the M25, well, it did.
Thing is, when female pop stars "explore their sexuality" by kissing one another on stage, that's an approved kind of outrageous. Because the straight men* like it. Women encouraging their male dancers to sniff their crotches? Straight men, not unhappy with that. Women who apparently *want* sex? No objection from the straight men.
And then we have Adam Lambert, doing much the same thing only, gasp, he's a guy! And he's not shoving his naughty bits into a woman's face (actually, he may well have done, I can't remember the details) but into a man's—oh, my, send for the smelling salts. It makes the straight men terribly, terribly uncomfortable.
I'm thinking, maybe, it's because men are persons and women are sex objects? It's acceptable for a sex object to playact sex because, well, that's what she is *for*. It's acceptable for a person (eg Justin Timberlake) to playact sex with a woman dancer, because that's what she's for. But a man who playacts sex with a man—that's person abuse!
So it's not just homophobia, it's misogyny too. Dear Adam, please not to be forgetting that.
* Straight men = not necessarily "all men who are heterosexual", more "the prevalent attitudes running our society". Lotta women seem to buy into it. :-(
Thing is, when female pop stars "explore their sexuality" by kissing one another on stage, that's an approved kind of outrageous. Because the straight men* like it. Women encouraging their male dancers to sniff their crotches? Straight men, not unhappy with that. Women who apparently *want* sex? No objection from the straight men.
And then we have Adam Lambert, doing much the same thing only, gasp, he's a guy! And he's not shoving his naughty bits into a woman's face (actually, he may well have done, I can't remember the details) but into a man's—oh, my, send for the smelling salts. It makes the straight men terribly, terribly uncomfortable.
I'm thinking, maybe, it's because men are persons and women are sex objects? It's acceptable for a sex object to playact sex because, well, that's what she is *for*. It's acceptable for a person (eg Justin Timberlake) to playact sex with a woman dancer, because that's what she's for. But a man who playacts sex with a man—that's person abuse!
So it's not just homophobia, it's misogyny too. Dear Adam, please not to be forgetting that.
* Straight men = not necessarily "all men who are heterosexual", more "the prevalent attitudes running our society". Lotta women seem to buy into it. :-(