I'll be contented with yesterday's memory
May. 8th, 2021 08:09 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
pensnestI got my second vaccine (Pfizer) on Wednesday, and as far as I could tell only had a mildly sore arm, less sore than after the first one. But, and it may or may not be related, I have developed a *huge* red rash on the front of my neck. Itchy and weird, and I'm not sure whether itching began before the jab or not. :-(
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In other news, it's possible my brain fog was more attributable to living with and taking care of FIL and less to The Current Situation than I had realised. And I've started singing around the house again, now there is no fear of waking/disturbing him. We continue to be unable to make much progress on the many things that must be attended to after a person dies, but Beast has a telephone interview with the Registrar next week, and BIL will be here tomorrow and can start picking out any of his dad's possessions that he would like to keep. After that, we should be able to make a bit more progress.
Sometimes it feels quite callous to be moving on to the clearing up stage already, as though there ought to be an official period of mourning, but there isn't, and in many respects, I think we mourned him before he died. As with my father, who had a stroke, and died 20 months later, FIL underwent a considerable loss of personality due to the dementia. The sadness is at its most acute while one is still experiencing it, and after a gradual and expected death, it's easy to get back to normality. And there is a lot to do.
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In other news, it's possible my brain fog was more attributable to living with and taking care of FIL and less to The Current Situation than I had realised. And I've started singing around the house again, now there is no fear of waking/disturbing him. We continue to be unable to make much progress on the many things that must be attended to after a person dies, but Beast has a telephone interview with the Registrar next week, and BIL will be here tomorrow and can start picking out any of his dad's possessions that he would like to keep. After that, we should be able to make a bit more progress.
Sometimes it feels quite callous to be moving on to the clearing up stage already, as though there ought to be an official period of mourning, but there isn't, and in many respects, I think we mourned him before he died. As with my father, who had a stroke, and died 20 months later, FIL underwent a considerable loss of personality due to the dementia. The sadness is at its most acute while one is still experiencing it, and after a gradual and expected death, it's easy to get back to normality. And there is a lot to do.
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Date: 2021-05-08 09:13 pm (UTC)I also hope the practical necessities can be done with as little hassle as possible. It makes a lot of sense to me that the heaviest mourning happened leading up to his passing. So I hope you get to allow yourself to just be wherever you are with it.
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Date: 2021-05-09 08:42 am (UTC)I think once BIL has had the chance to see what he wants to keep, we will be able to dispose of other things suitably. First the house, then the 35 boxes (I'm not kidding) in the garage....